How to be attractive to others?

When we engage in communication with strangers, we are evaluated based on four parameters. The first two are assessed within the first 5–10 seconds of the encounter, giving an understanding of whether the person likes us or not.

1. Appearance. It is evaluated based on how we are dressed, our hairstyle, skin issues, and body language.
   Recommendations:
   a) Make a neat hairstyle that suits the shape of your head.
   b) Use a moisturizer for your face to maintain youthfulness and prevent dryness, cracks, wrinkles, and other skin imperfections.
   c) Practice exercises to develop a natural smile. If you notice that your smile looks forced in photographs, it happens because we tend to use muscles that are not intended for that purpose.
2. Voice and speech. How we speak also contributes to the initial impression. Does our tone sound confident? Do we use affirmative or questioning notes? Is our voice clear, or does it sound nasal or stutter? People subconsciously perceive these aspects. A well-projected voice inspires trust and creates an impression of success, as it opens many doors both in career and business.
   Recommendations:
   a) Allocate 15–20 minutes daily for exercises that strengthen your voice, and improve its resonance, intonation, and diction.
   b) Record a 15-minute video daily where you talk about a certain topic. This helps you observe how you occupy physical space, use gestures, facial expressions, and, of course, your manner of speech. Over time, your monologues will become more energetic and lively.
   c) Practice improvisation. A simple game is playing associations, for example: table — lunch — delicious — dessert — tea — China — wall — construction. I believe you understand the principle. This allows you to convert passive vocabulary into active, making your speech richer. Another practice is to say a sentence and come up with a different ending for it. Keep doing this until you get tired. For example, [Last night we visited three bars, and we returned home drunk and happy.] — [Happy people live in a colorful world, soaring above the gray reality.] Try to feel what you are talking about. Visualization is our only limit.
3. Tell about yourself. Now is the time to create texture. Talk about what you do and your hobbies. Your knowledge and experience make you unique and can generate genuine interest, providing topics for engaging conversations.
4. Empathy. However, a dry enumeration of facts about oneself is not enough. It’s like an avatar in a game like The Sims. It lacks aspirations and dreams. Show depth, show that you are a living, feeling person. Last year, I read a guide on creating a company’s brand. One of the recommendations was to write down what you believe in. For example, if you brew craft beer to stand out from competitors who produce an identical product, tell the story of what you believe in, a story that resonates with the soul of your target audience. Do you understand? This applies to individual people as well.

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